69. Can you be in love with someone and still fall in love with someone else?
Of course. That’s not an excuse to be unfaithful to the person you’re with, specifically if you’re in a closed relationship.
70. What’s the tragedy of your life?
That I’m not currently holding Kingdom Hearts 4 in my hand.
71. Would your life make a good play?
It would make a boring play.
72. Should people be prosecuted for crimes that were not crimes at the time?
It depends. If it caused significant harm or injury to lasting trauma to someone, then I think it should be considered retroactively a crime, especially if the perpetrator actually intended to cause harm for selfish gain or reasons.
73. Would you fight for your country? Do you feel a sense of loyalty to your nation?
I feel more of a sense of loyalty to the human race than I do my nation. Nations, to me, are basically gigantic tribes that put borders around themselves and try to separate themselves from each other and claim superiority. I think the human race needs to come to a point where we get past having borders and barriers that separate each other and be like one people without the petty divisions and separations we try to surround ourselves and others with.
America is certainly one of the better countries to live in in the world. There are a lot of freedoms here that other places simply don’t have. I don’t know if that will remain in the long term at this current point of writing. There are some very strong extremist movements in the U.S. right now that I think would be very scary if they ever managed to achieve even a modicum of full power. (And I worry they might actually be starting to succeed lately.)
I would never fight for my nation for any cause that I consider to be immoral.
I am all for fighting for any cause that would be for legitimate liberation and freedom of others, but it is extremely unlikely I would ever willingly enlist to fight in any military or physical combat sense. I am a creative person and a writer. I prefer to fight with words and not with weapons.
74. Do you believe in gender equality in every aspect?
I think it’s important to be realistic about the fact that there ARE differences in genders and that each gender has its own strengths and weaknesses. I believe in equality to a point. Specifically, I believe that all the breadth of opportunities should be available to all genders and not restricted to specific genders.
That being said, I think that, taking into account the differences between genders, that I would lean even stronger towards equity over equality. ‘Equality’ tends to gloss over the unique differences between genders and tries to present a ‘one size fits all’ in providing the same opportunities to each gender. ‘Equity’ acknowledges the unique differences of the genders and attempts to allocate the exact opportunities needed to reach an equal outcome.
Refer to the graphic below for an example of equality vs. equity in general:
75. Do we have a moral obligation to care for others? To what extent?
I think that not caring about others is precisely the direct cause of all the problems in the world. We are all highly interconnected with each other. There is hardly a thing we do, a decision we make, that does not in some way impact the whole around us to greater or lesser degrees. Sure, we might FEEL like our actions and decisions have no consequences, but the fact is that even the most minor choice can have massive ramifications. And our actions affect not just each other, but the very world we live on that sustains us.
In a world where a small minority of the population controls nearly all the wealth in the world and gobbles up the most resources and wastefully uses even more while many people are denied dignity and the most basic resources needed to survive, where mad despots rush to obtain power irregardless of the people suffering underneath them, where people aren’t treated with love and decency and respect for who and what they are and how they choose to live, love, and express themselves, where people who think of their own group or race as being superior to everyone else and are trying to force their own will on everyone else around them and even sometimes killing those who are different than them, where favoritism and unfair standards create opportunities for certain types of people and deny opportunities for others, where we’ve fostered a world where people can feel alone and isolated and uncared for despite being more connected than ever, where all of us to some extent participate in the rape and exploitation of the earth and its resources to satiate our own immediate gratification while polluting our support system out the wazoo, is it really any surprise that we live in a world of violence, warfare, nonstop conflict, mass shootings, high suicide rates, poverty, monster storms and natural disasters that increase in scope with each passing year; pandemics, division, hatred, unchecked human greed, ect?
All of these things are a direct result of not caring how actions affect those other than our immediate selves. It is not merely a moral issue. When we don’t care for others, we rob ourselves of having the kind of world we say we want to have. We ensure that we don’t have a world of peace and harmony where everyone is given equitable opportunity, where everyone is able to feel loved and accepted, a world not constantly reeling from death, destruction, tragedy, and violence.
It’s ironic that many people, specifically religious people, think ‘heaven’ is something that can only be attained beyond this life, and that in order to have a world free of violence, hatred, war, suffering, and discord, we have to wait until we die and hope we were good enough to get there. In Christianity, specifically, though, to cite one example, Jesus explicitly talks about “on Earth as in Heaven”, and that the entire law rests on “love others as you love yourselves” and that doing such would be the visible inbreaking Kingdom of Heaven on Earth.
We do, in fact, have the ability to create the world we want if everyone would just get on board. We could end war, starvation, pollution, violence, ect., overnight if everyone on the planet would simply make the choice to love each other person as their own self and honor who each other is, renounce self-centeredness, and view the world as a holy and sacred place with reverence for all the life on it and not something to be merely raped and exploited for the benefit of man.
We don’t have an “obligation” to care about others. We’re perfectly free to do as we please. But only one path – the realization that despite our races and differences and quirks and customs and what-have-not, we are all one people, that there are enough resources on the Earth to share with each other and allow the entire population of the earth to live with dignity and ample opportunity for a good life, and that loving and caring about others and caring about how our actions affect others, and striving to legitimately create the most just world possible – only that path, is the actual path to genuine life.
76. Do you crave approval and/or praise?
I think everyone to some extent likes to be praised and feel like they’re making a valuable contribution. And I think there is a very healthy amount of praise to accept and feel good about. But do I crave it? Not really. It means more to me that I can make a difference in the world and someone else’s life than merely feeing my ego. I especially don’t crave approval either. I march to the beat of my own drum. I am my most authentic self. If someone doesn’t like me for who I am, fuck ’em. I’m not living my life for them. I’m living my life for me and the others who love me and accept me as a part of their lives.
77. Is there comedy in all tragedy, and tragedy in all comedy?
Life can oscillate between these two poles, and certainly either one can also contain the other, but I don’t think there is any definite rule that each one MUST contain both.
78. Are you ever going to be satisfied?
Depends on what sense you are talking about. If you are talking in a purely materialistic sense, then I am, for the most part, already pretty satisfied. I have a roof over my head, a job that pays the bills, running water, food, computer, TV, ect. I am also blessed by family that loves and cares about me, close friends who have my back and that I enjoy spending time with, and too many other blessings to count. There is nothing else I really “need”. So, yes, I’m satisfied.
I do wish that I had a serious relationship with a life partner, and I wish that I hadn’t gone this far in life still being single, but at the same time, all my basic needs are being met, and the one thing I feel I’m missing isn’t an absolute necessity.
If you’re talking in a goal-oriented sense, then no, and I never want to come to a point where, in that sense, I ever do become complacent and stagnant and satisfied. One of the grandest aspects of life is to be able to dream dreams and come up with goals and strive to improve oneself and shoot for higher. There is always a new dream to be dreamed, and if achieved, a bigger and grander one to be dreamed after that. That is my conviction.
79. When you are sad, do you listen to music that conveys your emotions or music that makes you happy?
My primary genres of music are heavy metal and alternative rock, and I tend to like angsty and dark music, so, I tend to listen to the same types of music regardless of how I feel.
80. Is your music organized by mood or sensation, or do you just listen to everything all time?
Usually I’ll binge through the entire works of a single band at a single time to get really familiar with their music, so I tend to hyperfixate on one band at once, while also keeping up with new releases of bands I follow. And, of course, if the mood strikes me for something specific I’ll load it up.
81. Would you marry a friend if they needed you to (e.g. for citizenship)?
I wouldn’t marry someone unless they were someone I was attracted to and I saw us building an actual relationship together.
82. Are you a deep person?
83. Given the chance to live your life on Mars, with no hope of returning to Earth but the promise of scientific discovery and glory, would you take it?
I’m not a scientist, and I don’t care much about glory, so no, I have no desire to leave my friends and family and life behind for such a thing.
84. Are you who people think you are?
Are any of us who people think we are? I think that people are complex, and we don’t tend to show all sides of us to everyone at once. We are always hiding aspects of ourselves in order to fit in around others and not alienate ourselves, and this even includes very close relationships such as significant other or close friends. We may show much more of our true selves to those we are in close relationship to, but do we still truly show everything? That is, I think, often not, or even not at all the case.
And, of course, as one meme I saw on Facebook the other day said… we are all the hero in some people’s stories and the villain in others. Not everyone is going to perceive us the same way. Different people are going to perceive us in vastly different ways. Some people are going to think we’re the best thing ever while some other people are going to think we’re the devil. That’s just how it is.
So I don’t think that any of us are necessarily the people who other people think we are. We are the aspects we show to different people at different times, and we are also the way we are perceived by different people. And beneath it all we are all highly complex, and there are a multiple of factors and variables that make up each individual person.
Hell, are we even the people we think ourselves are?